Spiritual Warfare-Stronghold of Rejection

 

A Stronghold is where you are either held safe from the enemy or held in captivity by the enemy.

(2 COR 10:3-5 ) “We are humans, but we do not wage war as humans do. We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons to knock down the strongholds of human reasonings and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.”

 

Rejected people feel hurt and are hurt. They may feel undervalued, inadequate, like victims, , unappreciated and thus will tempt to control their life to keep from being rejected.  They will isolate, reject others, rebel against authority, or retaliate with overt control, by scheming, strategizing or reasoning, manipulation, arguing or just worry. Rebellion can look like anger, hatred, resistance, and being uncooperative. Passive control can be hurt, helplessness, unworthiness. If you are suffering with any of these things it may be that you need also to repent of the way you rebelled against your authorities in your life or how you sought to control others to keep from being hurt. These characters I have seen in pastors and other leaders.  They are getting a need for affirmation, attention and affection in the ministry and will end up hurting their flock.  

Human reasonings, false arguments, proud obstacles that keeps people from knowing God’s truth must be captured and destroyed and God’s truth needs to be exchanged so our minds will obey Christ and his word. Some of these are human reasonings like communism, Islam, agnosticism, atheism, fascism, and racism.

As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.  Pro 23:7. “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. “When we think negatively, our words will react according to what we think about.  Then when we speak words of death instead of life, we release the whirl wind of more rejection.  Let us destroy the thoughts and lies that rejection has planted in our minds.

What kind of thoughts do we need to capture and destroy?

            People are mad at me if they don’t give return my calls or reach out to me.

I ask about other’s feelings, but I don’t talk about mine. If I do speak about mine, people will think I am stupid.

            I assume people are talking about me when I walk into a room, and the room gets quiet.

I feel left out if I am not invited to lunch with the others on the team, invited to be on a ministry team or included in a gathering.

I work at being a peacemaker and try to help others with their problems.

I isolate when I really want others to ask me why I seem to be upset.

Physical touch is a must for me and seem to need to give and receive hugs.

Rejection comes in when:

o   You are not wanted even in the womb.

o   Parents wanted the opposite sex when you were born

o   Parents were sick or absent or physically incapable of nurturing you.

o   Feel left out, overlooked, unappreciated and misunderstood.

o   Teachers picked on you.

o   Weren’t picked to be on the team or committee.

o   Made fun of as a child. Bullied.

o   A sibling was preferred or give more attention

o   Not accepted by a group in school

o   You were defriended.

o   In a relationship and were dumped by the opposite sex.

o   Any time anyone abuses you, neglects you or wounds you in any way.

 

THE TRUE TEST OF HEALING IS IF THERE ARE NO NEGATIVE FEELINGS WHEN THE SUBJECT IS BROUGHT UP.

So many people think they have forgiven individuals, but often that forgiveness is not complete.

One needs to test it. 

 

Lying spirits cause ungodly beliefs to develop, vows are made to protect yourself from further hurt, and spirits of fear come in along with roots of rejection in the family line. 

Spirits of deception, seducing spirits, prideful spirits, and familiar spirits also can be a part of this stronghold.  Mistrust and perfectionism join the ranks, then rejecting others, and desiring rejection all can jump into the mix. You can imagine how the enemy can gang up on one person through a spirit of rejection.

In myself I can see how authorities in my life shamed me, called me stupid, or indicated I had a low I, Q, and didn’t really give affirmation to my ability except to do chores well and be a good girl.  I was afraid I would fail, as my father. I tried to be perfect in my chores, but didn’t see the need to excel in school, but rather just behave so you didn’t get in trouble. I was deceived into believing the lie that if I made others happy, I would be loved, and then would be happy.  I had no idea of a goal for my life, or purpose.  I certainly did not know who I was as I was trying to please everyone else.  Healing came much later in my life as a result.  But it did come.

What needs to happen to bring you healing.  Look for a friend that can walk you through the process of being delivered from rejection. They should be or do the following:

            Are patient, loving and forgiving.

            Will hold you accountable for pursuing the process of healing.

            Will understand that your friendship won’t be perfect.

            He will give you advice that you can trust.

 

You then should: 

Expose the lying Spirit and ask your friend to clarify what they meant.

Take each thought captive. Compare it with scripture.

Scriptures: 

(JOHN 6:37)

(HEBREWS 13:5-6:))…For God has said: “I will never fail you.”  I will never abandon you.” ‘So we can say with confidence,’ “The Lord is my helper, so I will have no fear.”

 

Pray: Father I ask you to forgive me in the name of Jesus for:

Fearing rejection from____________________________________.

I forgive __________________ for all the ways that they made me feel rejected.

And for believing the lie that I am _____________________________________.

And for making a decision to protect myself by ___________________________.

I choose to forgive myself and release myself (from the above  mentioned sin.)

I repent for and renounce the lie that I am ________________________________.

I choose to believe the truth that I am ____________________________________.

I renounce the vow or decision I made above and cancel the power of the enemy to make me remember this vow or walk in it. I forgive myself and am forgiven by God.  

I release all of the pain in this issue to God (put your hand on your heart). Holy Spirit come and heal my heart and tell me the truth about this situation.

 

Say the same prayer for:

Ways that you have rejected others as appropriate.

Ways that you have rejected yourself.

Ways that you have desired rejection.

Ways that you have feared rejection.

 

When you have prayed through all of the ways that you have walked in rejection, pray:

“I command the spirit of rejection to go in the name of Jesus where He tells you to go and never come back.”

If you have any pain left in your heart you still need to forgive someone, either God, yourself or others.  

 

Spirits of control and rebellion work together with rejection to form a very powerful, common stronghold. Repeat the process or seek a counselor or prayer minister to help you set free.  

Also, the spirit of shame will work together with fear and control.

Wherever you have given into the spirits of shame, repent, confess and forgive and declare the truth.

Wherever you have given into the spirit of control, do the same thing.

Always pray a prayer of spiritual cleansing afterwards.  It is always a good idea to have someone praying this with you.

Please contact me for help or prayer.